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Why is it important to trust someone? Kid’s may not know. But, they surely know if you’ve disappointed them and therein lies the answer.
Unless we make truth personal, kids will think it’s only important when it applies to someone telling THEM the truth.
First of all, when kids lie, we need to be calm, understanding that [...]
When teens lie, they are normally very good at it. They are either protecting themselves from a bigger pain, wanting to gain something materially, or embellishing for their image.
Extracting the truth from teens can be a painful experience.
The most important thing for parents to remember, when teens tell the big whopper of a lie, is [...]
Now that your child has told you the truth, what do you do with it?
Truth. once told, should always be rewarded, while you’re growing up. Somehow, we’ve got to reinforce the good thing, the truth. The pressures in today’s society for lying and deceitful behavior are very strong. As parents, sometimes we think that reinforcing good [...]
“Tell the truth!” “Don’t lie to me!” “I want the truth and I want it now!”
Sound familiar? When kids feel safe, they are more likely to talk about something that happened where they made a mistake, or were hurt.
When kids have practiced and rehearsed telling the truth, or talking about an experience, they are more [...]
Truth? You Can’t Handle The Truth!
While that’s a bit dramatic, it was a great line in the movie “A Few Good Men” wasn’t it?
I see a lot of truth in that remark. If I summed up why kids, or anyone lies, it would be “because they fear punishment for telling the truth.” Most of us, [...]
When kids lie, parents die.
Well, of course we don’t literally die. But, we do freak out, often losing control because we’re hurt, mad, and disappointed. Fear enters in as well, when we think about what this does to the trust issues between us and our children. Our concern is that we help kids understand how lying hurts [...]
In a Barbie World, truth abounds. In our world, kids lie, adults lie, teens lie, children lie, parents lie, everyone lies.
After raising over 250 foster children and 3 active boys of my own during the last 20 years, I’ve crashed into a few lies. It’s been my experience that using the lie word frequently takes [...]
Tip #1: What is the Truth?
Before “punishing” or consequencing your child for lying, ask yourself “Why did they lie, or say what they said?” Think about that and list all the reasons you can come up with. The purpose of this is to direct your thinking beyond the lie. Many times what we think of as [...]
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About the Author As a mom, former foster parent, educator, family counselor, and business manager, I've walked many paths and write about them here. My university degree was in childhood development and since then I've taught elementary school classes, held parenting seminars, raised three boys of my own and foster parented over 250 kids and teenagers.
My husband, Lynn endured a long time career in law enforcement investigating hard crimes, sex crimes, and domestic violence. Together, our work has given us experiences that were tough, and we hope valuable to others. For a few years, Lynn transported federal prisoners as a Deputy Air Marshall. There, confined on a jet, and wrapped in chains, he saw firsthand where wrong choices land both young and old. Our journeys are full of opportunites, challenges, choices, and we live with our decisions. We tried to help those we came into contact with, but we failed many times. I think life is more about failure than successes and once we realize that, we have less heartache, taking defeat less personally, seeing the experience for what it is, a lesson. If you can, while you are still here on earth, bend down, and lift another up. It's worth it. You'll find that in doing so, your own burdens are lighter. It just happens. Let's talk.
We grew along with the kids we raised. We've made some mistakes, lived over them, and enjoyed some successes. We want to talk about it all, and hope it helps you.
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